Five years ago, I got punched in the balls. By a man my father’s age.

Talk about triggering.

It was semi-consensual - we were practicing jiu jitsu - I just wasn't expecting a sneaky one in the nuts.

Through this rough and tumble with added extras, I was being physically taught that the keys to staying solution-focussed in life were laid out in the book: "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen R. Covey.

Wind back a few more years to my corporate engineering days: "7 Habits" had a boom with the middle and upper management - and after everyone was dropping the term "paradigm shift" and receiving a few nods of approval that hinted at "I see you've done your homework", I figured it was probably some sleazy "personality hack" book to get ahead in the corporate world, and I wrote it off my list.

Oops.

10 years later it became the most physiological wake-up call I've had.

Almost like a delayed rite of passage for a man.

Not just in the world of professional development, but in building the most important relationship in your life.

The one within.

The one that supports every other relationship to be better.

This email might come across as blunt.

As blunt as that fist was felt by my nether regions (and my soul).

But my intention in writing it, is that it is reflective, and hopefully, insightful.

Please proceed with care...

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So what are these habits and how do they pertain to our health?

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1. Be Proactive.

If you don’t know, find out.

Your body is running a million processes with every breath — you’ll never know them all, but you can follow timeless wisdom.

The kind that builds health instead of chasing fixes.

When you’re proactive, you step out of “sand-bagging mode” and into steady growth.

A very hard cycle to break, but there is a way...

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2. Begin with the End in mind.

We’re going to die. The End.

The question is: how do you want to go? With a clear mind, a light heart, and a smile that ripples into future generations?

What sort of vibration, like a beautiful song, will get passed on through the lives of your loved ones and onto the future generations? The energy you leave ripples through generations, as the past has into you. *visualise this for a moment*

That vision of how you want to leave this life isn’t built at the end — it’s built now, with every choice.

Get clear on this, and your priorities make sense fast.

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3. Put First things first.

Sounds obvious. But this one takes a powerful skill that is slowly diminishing in the age of information - discernment.

We are bombarded by distractions masked as urgent and important things to deal with, that often keep you in a loop of fighting fires, or wasting our precious time.

Knowing what needs to happen each day, consistently, and practiced over time, is the best way to build a resilient body and mind.

If you're health is not in your top 5 priorities, this is a time to reflect.

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Info break.

These first three habits are what take us out of Health Dependence - the first steps to true Response-ability.

You could look at your health as a skill you develop - so that when life is coming at you with all different punches - you're not stuck with only one way to try and handle it.

You have choices available to you.

Based on tried and tested results in your body (no need for gambling on fad-fixes or miracle supplements here because you know).

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4. Think Win-win.

Cos if doing the thing is not a win for you, your body, your mind, or whoever you're engaging with - then someone is losing.
And we don't need to play in that dichotomy anymore.

If the food you're eating is not going to support your body and mind, then who are you doing it for?

If it's to receive the joy of another - consider this - maybe what that person truly needs is for you to be at your whole-body best. Not suffering later for the perception of sharing in some short term pleasure.
But if receiving this food is going to compromise your system - then that's something worth reflecting on too. (back to habits 1-3.)

In short: If it's not going to be Win-Win, you have another choice: No Deal.

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5. Seek first to understand, then be understood.

Understand yourself, and how your body works. It's not the same body as everyone elses. Results will vary.

Learning about Agni - the Ayurvedic view on digestion, aka the centre of our health, is going to enlighten your understanding of your internal world, and the relationship with food and your body. (this is something I've talked about on this email before, and I run a 4-week course on building the fundamental habits that support digestion.)

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6. Synergise.

If you get to habit 6, then by this point, you've probably been consciously directing your health for some time now, and have a deep and reverent connection established with your body.

You’re listening, adjusting, and making simple moves that keep you in balance. That feedback loop expands your capacity over time — ease replaces effort. When you force-fix from the mind, distrust grows. When you act from synergy, body and mind line up, and solutions rise naturally.

When we slip too far into the mind, we start force-fixing — pushing solutions instead of listening. That only breeds distrust and disconnection between head and heart, mind and body. It’s the hallmark of a busy lifestyle: ignoring inner connection until the wall hits hard.

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Master this, and you are ready for "Interdependent Health" - a Whole-body relationship with your self.

A state of union where everything is working together to provide you the golden platform for you to....

Fully live your life.

This is what your health is for.

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!Wait! What about Habit 7?

If you know the habits, or if you don't, what do you think the 7th one is, and what would it mean in the context of your health?

If you don't have the book, it's worth reading 36 times.

No affiliate links here unfortunately, just get yourself a copy.

It might change your life.

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with lots of love and well-padded private zones,

Kosta Gee

PS: I’ve paused my Japanese courses — which means I can finally launch my online Ayurvedic Health courses in English.
If you're in Melbourne, Australia, we'll be starting our next course with a gathering on Saturday Jan 10. If you'd like to know more about this transformational course, let me know.

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